![]() The reflexive bottom line is the more easy interaspects, the better. Naturally most of what we’ve inherited in the astrological traditions of synastry idealizes harmony between people. And another: Venus-if there are strong, easy Venus contacts between us, we’ll probably like each other on sight. If my planets, especially softer ones, fall in your Seventh House, there’s usually a friendly connection felt between us. In determining astrological harmony between people, let’s add another piece to the puzzle: the Seventh House. Joan is gone now, but her work will live on in that term. It’s a useful word and will undoubtedly become part of the basic semantics of astrological practice. Obviously enough, it refers to aspects between two charts-my Venus trines your Sun. The term “interaspects” originated, as far as I know, with Ken and Joan Negus. That happy, easy, schmoozing feeling we get with congenial strangers-what are its astrological correlates? Basically it boils down to easy interaspects: trines, sextiles, certain specific conjunctions. They sometimes overlap, but knowing the difference helps us keep our lives sorted out. So, we are talking about two very different kinds of love: friendship and mating. On the other hand, when our lover says, “I will always be your friend,” we know what’s really being said: I don’t want to sleep with you anymore. We don’t want erotic contact with everyone we “like ” we usually don’t desire our friends-and if those fires get kindled, we sense we’re about to muddy the water in a serious way. We get to our teens and we know the distinction like we know the difference between kissing grandma and kissing in the back seat. They’re not opposites, but they certainly feel different. Everything a friend does is all right.Ĭompare that kind of easy-going friendship to the turbulence and emotional complexity of a sane, grown-up sexual relationship. ![]() You meet someone at a party and there’s an instantaneous sense of being on the same page. You can feel that kind of friendship instantly. Like good jazz players, we even interrupt each other at exactly the right, comfortable moments. ![]() We share interests we celebrate each other’s victories and commiserate in failure and pain. True friendship is a rare and wonderful thing I don’t mean to belittle it. Something upon which we have staked a big piece of our lives is taken away. Being downgraded to “friend” means rejection. But most of us have felt that terrible sting–the word “friend” when it comes out of the mouth of someone with whom we are in love in a romantic, mating way. When is the following declaration the saddest, bitterest thing you’ve ever heard? “I will always be your friend.” Birth Chart Compatibility is a Choice, Not a Prediction ![]()
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